Dressed Alike

My sister posted some of our old family pictures taken back in the 80s and 90s in her Facebook account. Though embarassed, every photo reminded me of my childhood.

But one thing’s in common…my mom dressed us all alike most of the time! See for yourself! πŸ™‚

L: our nanny with my brother, my mom with me, and my grandma with my sister; R: with grandpa

Aren’t those denim jumpers with a bear patch cute?! What about those green and white PE uniforms? Obviously, we were enrolled in the same school. πŸ˜€

I couldn’t remember which cartoon character that was on me and my sister’s shirt… perhaps Voltron? Laced socks and dolfin shorts were a hit back in the 80s.

Same nursery uniforms in pastel colors partnered with white sandals. And those striped two-piece bikinis were one of my favorites.

In pink pajamas, Filipiniana costume, and summer jumpsuits with pearls. My mom is really into fashion. πŸ˜€

We’re not twins yet my mom is really fond of dressing us up like one.

As you grow older, you try to have some identification–individuality…but still…it looks all the same. πŸ™‚


When your mom starts using Facebook…

She did and I was dreading it, hehehe! Goodbye privacy!Β  Hello paranoia! I hope she doesn’t start putting up her own blog….:-)

From 2, then 18, then 24 friends in 3 days! Her friends were mostly relatives and her previous officemates.

And yes, she has been updating her FB account everyday….she already has an About Me description which began with “Loves my 3 kids, loves ballroom dancing, blah…blah….blah…” including wake-boarding which I believe she has only tried once without her contact lenses on. How did she enjoy that without seeing a thing?! Maybe I’m just bitter, because I haven’t tried it. πŸ™‚

What a disaster if she starts:

  • Be-friending my real friends and officemates…Oh my!
  • Likes or comments to one of my posts or even my friends’ posts.
  • Starts leaving lecture-type messages on my wall….
  • Worse….starts asking where I am thru my wall or thru my friends’ walls….I just remembered a friend who’s kid would look for her and leave funny messages such as, “Mom, where are you?” or “When are you going home, mom?” πŸ˜€
  • Lastly, I’d probably be devastated if she’ll keep on changing her status message….worse, her relationship status!

Perhaps, I’m gonna have to deactivate my account soon….hehehe!

What hurts the most?

Is it sexual or emotional infidelity?

Most men would reply sexual infidelity as this is a blow to their ego but for women, they would be most likely hurt with emotional infidelity. Source? None, just my imagination… So you might want to contribute to the poll.

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But I saw one article by Sharon Begley, science editor of the Newsweek, about Of Sex and ‘Soulmates’ which you might find useful as well. It talked about the Mars vs. Venus theory… a person’s DNA … or simply a person’s history of upbringing.

Nevertheless, I have compiled most of the common signs to detect whether your partner is cheating on you.

To begin with, an emotional infidelity or affair stems from the usual friendship. If your partner seems to talk about a person most often or perhaps try to avoid the discussion about another person yet you know they are friends, there must be something going on.

Another sign of an emotional affair brewing would be when you’re partner seems to be preoccupied. Then suddenly, he/she no longer discusses or seeks advice on his/her personal problems perhaps related to work, finances… or just simply not telling you about his/her day during dinner or before bed time. Or in contrast, he/she might be overly thoughtful and caring perhaps to cover up for something.

You might also notice that your partner seems to be uncommonly and unpredictably away or unreachable. They appear to be wanting some privacy as they enjoy their alone time day dreaming or sneaking to have a short talk or reach out to the third party. Then this would be coupled with the sudden disappearance of credit card and phone bills.

Unusual attention or gifts received from your partner may be used as an excuse for the guilt.

What’s more painful, emotional affairs might lead to sex.

It is easier to spot a man or a woman having a sexual affair. Most of which are physical… are of physical evidence such as keeping condoms or birth control pills when one of you already has one. New underwear, clothes, perfume, etc. When you catch unusual smells of perfume, cigarette, etc. He/she goes home fully showered and claims having been to the gym. Unusual scratches, marks, stains…

A person’s sudden change in sleep pattern and sex drive can also be signs of both sexual and emotional infidelity. Emotionally, your partner may be unable to sleep well as he/she might be thinking about the other person. He/she might be suddenly disengaged with sex not only for the fear of suddenly blurting out the other person’s name while reaching the climax or probably just the guilt feeling or the suppression of which–of not being able to do the same act with the third-party. Sexually, your partner appears to be very experimental…it’s like re-enacting the evil deed and checking whether their partner would appreciate it or not.

When he/she surprisingly encourages you to go on the company trip, attend reunions on your own, giving you some alone time so your partner could in return have some time of his/her own.

Other signs include sudden interest in being in good shape, looking good in appearance and clothing, new hobbies, and music genre; sudden change in his habits and schedule.

Cheating partners can be very sneaky so some [not all] of these signs would be apparent. It varies depending on one’s personality… Any sudden change would give a you a signal… more than anything trust your intuition or simply trust your partner.

Going nostalgic: Tabing Ilog

The Philippines’ version of Dawson’s Creek, Tabing Ilog was one of my favorite ABS-CBN drama sitcoms aired every Sunday.

Miss this show and its official soundtrack by Barbie Almalbis. It reminds me of my younger days. πŸ™‚

Tabing Ilog cast: L-R Baron Geisler, Jodi Sta. Maria, Paolo Contis, Desiree Del Valle, John Lloyd Cruz, Kaye Abad, Paula Peralejo & Patrick Garcia

Growing up with Aling Tonya’s

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Just like every other years of celebrations, my sister and I celebrated our birthday feasting on seafood at Aling Tonya’s Paluto Restaurant with its original branch in Baclaran Seafood Market. It has been a family tradition but this year we invited two more families (from my estranged father’s side) whom I haven’t seen and have lost touch for almost two decades now.

It was truly a happy gathering…and looking forward to celebrate more occasions at Aling Tonya’s. Though I haven’t met Aling Tonya, Alvin has been always there to accommodate us. πŸ˜€

Alvin serving Aling Tonya's for 16 years!

Many similar restaurants have sprung at Baclaran Seafood Market and other locations in Macapagal-Roxas Boulevard and Metrowalk-Ortigas but we remain to be loyal (just like Alvin) to Aling Tonya’s home branch. Though still a bit crowded and stinky (what else do you expect of a seafood market? hehe!) with few parking spaces, the Baclaran Seafood Market has been renovated adding more floors to it to accommodate more diners.

We usually place our orders ahead of time so we wouldn’t haveΒ  to move around the wet market and wait for the food to be cooked…more than anything, we trust Alvin to pick the freshest and cheapest seafood for us.

While waiting for the Chua-Ton and Ton-Catipon families, my sister and I went down to take pictures of the colorful sea creatures. Too bad, most stalls have already closed since it was past 7pm.

Baclaran Seafood Market

abundance of shrimp, lobster and crab varieties

red lapu-lapu and various species of alien-looking dover sole fis
an assortment of sea shells

frogs anyone?

nice to meet you mr. octopus

turtle: please don’t eat me…

And this was what we ate last night…burp!

Are men more thoughtful than women?

I can’t help but wonder whether men are more thoughtful than women.

I’m about to turn a year older in just about eight hours from now and I’ve been receiving a lot of early greetings from men! Coincidence? I don’t think so since only 25% of my friends in Facebook are men and most of them are even gay.

The first guy who greeted me was my 2nd cousin whom I’ve only met after so many years since I was 12. The next one was my 2nd cousin as well. I haven’t really talked to him nor had any social interactions with him thru Facebook. the third guy was my uncle from my estranged father’s side whom I haven’t seen since I was 10 or so. Lastly, the fourth guy was my former officemate/boss. I haven’t seen him for almost two years now but I bumped in to him a week ago.

So how come these guys were the first to remember when I haven’t had any strong relationships with them and I haven’t seen them recently? I tried to search for any info or statistics about this but couldn’t find one. Most probably men are just spontaneous and would immediately blurt out their thoughts before it slip their minds.

This idea kept playing in my head when another idea came and I just realized perhaps those people who are close to you and who cares about you won’t just greet you thru SMS, Facebook, or any other social networking sites. They will greet you personally or thru a phone call and will greet you at the right moment…when you least expect it. Really???

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